In the realm of maternal fecundity, the experiences of Emily, Natalia, and Tom diverge, much like the tendrils of a mystical forest. British Vogue notes that "the decision to become a parent is one of the most significant choices a person can make" (1). For Emily, the yearning for parenthood had been a constant hum, a resonant frequency that harmonized with her being.
As she entered her thirties, the realization that time was fleeting hastened her resolve, leading her to embark on the arduous journey of in vitro fertilization. Germane to her narrative is the notion that, much like a cinematic edit, ---'s most pivotal moments often rely on deliberate planning (2). Natalia's path to mother hood was tinged with doubt, her trajectory guided by an unspoken understanding with her partner.
Like a whispered secret, their joint decision to attempt conception was met with success... dispelling the specter of uncertainty. Tom's epiphany, in contrast, arose from afar, courtesy of his acquaintance with his gay friends' offspring. This epiphanic revelation birthed an existential longing, which now propels him toward the fertility process.
Obscure as the waters of the subconscious, "their motivations may seem," "yet they continue to flow.".. shaping the contours of their destinies.
Parenting decision process.
The whispers of parenthood linger in the shadows, a tantalizing melody that beckons the willing and the wary alike. Few decisions hold the weight of destiny as the choice to become a parent, and British Vogue notes that it is a decision that can shape the course of one's existence (1). As the tendrils of fate entwine, individuals like Emily, Natalia, and Tom embark on a journey that will forever alter the topography of their ___s.
Like a masterfully crafted edit, the most pivotal moments in this odyssey rely on deliberate planning and a deep understanding of one's own motivations. Emily's path, marked by a constant hum of yearning, is illuminated by the savoir faire of in vitro fertilization. Her story, "like a cue in a dimly lit theater.".. sets the stage for the decisions that will follow.
British Vogue's assertion that the decision to become a parent is one of the most significant choices a person can make serves as a reminder that the whispers of parenthood can be both a blessing and a curse... shaping the contours of one's destiny in ways that only time will reveal.
Emily, 39, mum of a three-year-old : I always knew that I wanted a kid or kids. When I started dating my now-husband at 23, I made it clear that it was important to me and if he didn't want them, that would be an issue for me. We got married, and then there was a decade of me telling myself I wasn't ready, followed by two years of him telling me he wasn't ready. By the time we started trying, I was 35, and like a true millennial, I assumed having a baby would be like pressing a button to order a Lyft or a sandwich.●●● ●●●
But it was not, and we had to do IVF (which, mercifully, was successful our first round). Natalia, 36, mum of a two-year-old : I don't think I ever “knew”; I just made a decision. I was hoping to “know”, but it never really happened that way. I was in a good place in my relationship, with a stable job with insurance, and I thought the pandemic was coming to an end (right before Omicron). I also have PCOS and was told I would have fertility issues so that was always a looming threat.
With my partner we decided: let's try for a bit (six months) and if it doesn't happen we will stop wondering. It happened right away, my first cycle. I still think I would have been okay without kids and I'm okay with my kid.
